- What makes it even worse is the role of the Church. Instead of counselling these people and making the church a refuge, the sanctimonious church leaders rather pick on these vulnerable people and make their lives hell.
Dear Sanctimonious Ghanaian purist and spiritual hypocrites,
People Always Have Sex whether they hide it or not...
I find it despicable the way women are publicly shamed for an act that involves 2 consensual and willing persons. What is even more abhorrent is the way some churches deal with this phenomenon, objectifying women and making them symbols of shame in ways that are more psychologically traumatizing than the heroine in the book the Scarlet Letter.
Oh, most of these so-called Pastors would never have read that book I am sure. That video of Obinim lashing out an allegedly pregnant girl is a case of assault that those who protest publicly against the verbal abuse of top women in politics and governance should also go on the streets for.
Also for the countless number of women in churches who are called to the pulpit of the church and publicly shamed and disgraced in the name of them being immoral. It should be illegal. It is already a traumatizing experience for a young woman to have prospects of her academic, social and financial stability truncated by pregnancy, and the attendant stigma attached to it, to have an extra burden of being exceptionally called out and vilified.
What makes it even worse is the role of the Church. Instead of counselling these people and making the church a refuge, the sanctimonious church leaders rather pick on these vulnerable people and make their lives hell.
The church is a sanctuary, a place of refuge, a place where Jesus himself said, Come to me, all ye that are weary and heavily laden that I might give you rest. Yet today, what do we see? The Pastors have made themselves judges of people's private lives instead of counselors.
It is their place to counsel and admonish, not to judge. Meanwhile most of them are secretly lusting after the same girls... But that’s not my place.
Other churches are putting young women under psychological torture, and let me single out one such church that has a large following:
THE PENTECOST CHURCH
I don’t care what PENSA members say, their practices are horrible, archaic and in some cases anti-Christian. What right do Pentecost Pastors have to determine who marries a woman, and what right do they have to financially audit the person to the extent of checking whether the person has furniture in their house or not?
I have friends who have made their intentions to marry to their Pastors in this church, and it is amazing the kind of demands they make. Pure illiterate village mentality. It is high time we began addressing these issues. How can you tell a woman that the only men worth marrying her are only from the Church?
Now, let’s even carefully examine the whole church wedding thing very carefully:
Trace very carefully and you will realize that marriage was only embedded fully into church and liturgical traditions only somewhere after the 9th Century AD. Before that, marriage was a family affair, and a priest only came to bless the marriage so the couple will have children.
All this hullabaloo about the church interfering and all that is a result of changes in the Catholic Church and sacraments, that’s why even in the traditional custom fetish priest’s weren’t necessary to bless a marriage or whatever. Look carefully in the bible and tell me where a Priest or Levite was responsible for a wedding to take place.
We need to be very circumspect about how we treat other people in this age of enlightenment. Women aren’t fools, women are people, just like any other, and they are vulnerable, but not stupid.
To think that they are always called out and publicly shamed is a disgrace.