(1) When you come home and she's made an effort to cook; my dear monsieur, even if that's not what you have an appetite for, eat it quickly, ask for more and offer your gratitude. Teach it to your children too. It’s the first point of helping them to appreciate mothers and women. Abeg, don’t complain about the plenty pepper, or salt or whaleva. If you must, do it days later when you are all laughing at something, then drop it – “Abena, hmm I hear last Tuesday the salt sellers were many at the market” – she gets it. Move on.